tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7214964853469570802.post2801687764755007925..comments2023-08-19T19:38:10.529-07:00Comments on Where is my beautiful, happy, perfect family?: Absolutely amazing!!!Lynnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07175371164639037639noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7214964853469570802.post-53454532379433129772009-10-26T11:11:36.051-07:002009-10-26T11:11:36.051-07:00Dear Lynn,
Blended families can be so tough. In m...Dear Lynn,<br /><br />Blended families can be so tough. In mine, I am the step-parent. Both my stepson and my son used drugs, so I guess that sort of eliminated any "blame" issues between hubby and me. <br /><br />Anyhow, I rejoice with you in answered prayer, and we (my hubby Wayne and I) continue to pray for you and Jerry and Ryan.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CheriAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12298890660755610835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7214964853469570802.post-68669821124149172992009-10-26T05:29:17.812-07:002009-10-26T05:29:17.812-07:00Your story sounds so much like mine. I understand...Your story sounds so much like mine. I understand the frustration of trying to cope with your son's addiction. I pray that all works out for the good of your family. God bless.DreamDancerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05183510135523087765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7214964853469570802.post-87762749043025739342009-10-25T23:15:12.491-07:002009-10-25T23:15:12.491-07:00My husband is my son's step-dad. He was very ...My husband is my son's step-dad. He was very supportive in the beginning of my son's addiction issues. After awhile, me being so co-dependent and things becoming more heated, he kind of check out emotionally as well when it came to my son. Once I sought help through a counselor and Al-Anon, I opened up about things and became more honest with my son, myself and my husband. This helped me not rescue my son when my husband became frustrated, we would just sit down and get it out in the open. It sounds like your husband is more willing to try and connect a bit with your son and make some positive steps forward. Stay strong.The neverending battle of child's opiate addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138779247145438268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7214964853469570802.post-73268614306129435882009-10-25T15:35:02.285-07:002009-10-25T15:35:02.285-07:00What a wonderful praise! It's amazing when pra...What a wonderful praise! It's amazing when prayers are answered, isn't it?<br /><br />So, this is your son's stepdad? Ah, I recall the feeling of being caught in the middle of the two men that you love. When my son was 10, I was with a man who put me in the middle. I chose my son, because he was 10 years old.<br /><br />Your son is a grownup, as is mine. Now, you need to think differently-- your son is an adult and your have a husband. I choose my husband/marriage, now. My son is old enough to be on his own.<br /><br />What concerns me is your husband's drinking. I say this with no malice-- but is he an alcoholic? I was once married to an alcoholic. It lasted two years. I ended the marriage-- he was the one who turned on my son and behaved like what you described. <br /><br />I'm not saying to leave your husband! Just wondering if you are dealing with two addicts under the same roof. That's a huge burden for you.<br /><br />I was without the internet for 24 hours, so I'll answer your email late. For the record, it's perfectly okay that you mentioned my blog on yours. I'm honored.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />DebbyDebby of Oxycontin and Opiate Addiction: A Mother's Storyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14881167853310152283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7214964853469570802.post-78427488027665154842009-10-25T15:28:33.169-07:002009-10-25T15:28:33.169-07:00That is wonderful! Hopefully, they can have a bet...That is wonderful! Hopefully, they can have a better relationship. I've had some of the same issues with my son and my husband (his step-father) and also my son's father.<br /><br />I have over compensated in the past because of this and believe that is partly why the enabling behavior worsens. It has been the same pattern with my mother and her son (my brother, who is an alcoholic). I came to realize that I can't control each person's individual relationship with each other and do my best to let them be.<br /><br />Prayer really works!!Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04217840617951902611noreply@blogger.com